tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2495456151407883875.post3616664266196092538..comments2015-01-29T19:34:15.570-08:00Comments on Cicely-Renee: Celebrating Christmas all the up's and down'sAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13898989177299702214noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2495456151407883875.post-85217267121572331862015-01-07T08:16:55.813-08:002015-01-07T08:16:55.813-08:00When you put up walls today, you're acting as ...When you put up walls today, you're acting as the person you once were. And the reality is, that person doesn't exist anymore. So your old mechanisms are protecting someone who doesn't exist and the today you doesn't need someone else's armor. (And this new person in your life isn't the one who hurt you. What worked then won't serve you now.)<br /><br />The flip side of this coin is not beating yourself up for wall building being your go-to. It's an imperfection, for sure, but it's also just a part of you. Once you're aware of it, you get to step back and decide if a situation (or a person) are wall-worthy. And more often than not, they aren't. But they just might be love-relationship-friendship-worthy. Once you see this, then one puzzle piece at a time, you can step away from your walls and toward people instead.<br /><br />Are you an (emotional) wall builder? How do you keep the walls down in the relationships that you do let in?<br />I’m not used to someone who is good at communication and I find myself bottling things up inside and trying to deal with them on my own because I’m not sure what I can/can’t say at this stage. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com